Maybe He IS Just That Into You

Miss J sent me this article from Glamour's blogger Single-ish, which is a go-to of what is really going on with women, and some men too.  Allow me to share:


“I just don’t understand what happened,” cried my friend after meeting the guy of her dreams. “...now he's just…vanished.” I told her to just forget it and move on, but what she did instead might surprise you…(Friend met the guy while visiting family in Phoenix, and despite the distance, she felt sure that they’d keep in touch. But after a few sporadic phone calls, he stopped reaching out, and she was heartbroken.)
“I hate to say it,” I said, “but maybe he’s just not that into—” “No no!” she protested. “I know where you’re going with this and, HONESTLY, he was. He really was! I think I’m going to email him.”
Normally, I don’t think it’s a great idea to pour your guts out to a guy who isn’t calling. Boys know how phones work. If they want to reach you, they will. But she needed closure, so I gave her the green light. He already wasn’t talking to her, how much worse could it get? She sent him a simple, straight-forward email about how she was bummed... because she thought he was really interesting and special.

And you know what? He wrote back gushing about how much he agreed and hadn’t called because he worried she viewed him as just a vacation fling. He also said that he didn’t want to embarrass himself by putting his feelings out there, and was so happy that she had taken the first step.

Her theory is that the whole He’s Just Not That Into You movement prompted women to throw in the towel at the first sign of trouble, when, really, guys get nervous too and it’s OK to give them some encouragement.


And after I read this entry that Miss J had sent me and we discussed over cocktails, I realized it sounded a lot like me and Miles.

Mancation Status:  Stepping into the sunshine. Hopeful and optimistic.