3 “Deal-breakers” You Should Let Go Of‏

Lori Gottlieb’s controversial, Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough. Her premise is exactly what it sounds like: Stop looking for perfection and take what you can get. And while I don’t totally agree with her, I do think she has a point when it comes to loosening your kung-fu grip on certain deal-breakers. Here are a few that might be hindering your chance at love instead of helping it!

1. Height
I’ve never been one of those girls who needed to date a guy over a certain height. It always seemed like I was ruling out huge chunks of the population who might actually be awesome. One friend I know ditched an amazing dude because he was 5’7”. She said that she couldn’t bear to live a lifetime in flats, and she basically chose her shoe collection over him. Five years later, she has yet to meet another guy who gives her butterflies the way he did.

2. Income
In this economy, even smartest, most financially capable dudes may be struggling to rake in the dough. My advice? Don’t dump him just because he’s renting instead of owning or 1099’ing instead of W2’ing. There just might be something to that whole “for richer or poorer” thing!

3. His Sense of Style
Some things, like his fanatical devotion to the Knicks or hatred for Grey’s Anatomy, aren’t likely to change. But his wardrobe? Pfft, totally malleable! If you meet a guy who is perfect except for those dad jeans and Airwalks from 1998, don’t toss him aside just yet. Most dudes are just one capable girlfriend away from great style, and usually won’t resist if he sees how happy (and turned on!) it makes you.

3 Chances at Love You Should Never Deny Yourself

From blogger Single-ish...

1. If you think there was something there, you need to find out. Even if there isn’t, or wasn’t, if there’s a chance, every Hollywood movie (except maybe Romeo and Juliet) says you have to look into it. If for nothing else, just your peace of mind.

2. That cute guy—at the bar, in your hunting party/on your bus/in your study group/living under your porch—may have a girlfriend, or emotional problems, or no personality, or mommy issues, or a wife, or a kid, or rollerblades, or gang affiliations. Or he may just be shy. And perfect. Worth a shot.

3. There are some lines that should never be crossed romantically. Hostage captor comes to mind... but friendship is pretty much always kosher. We’ve all had them, those friends we wish were more. Sometimes the tension is palpable, sometimes someone’s eyes just need to be opened, and sometimes the fire burning inside of you isn’t shared. But for some of us, we have to find out, and we owe it to ourselves to do so. To see how this always works out for the best, see Chasing Amy.

My Weekend with Miles

You know... Plane Guy with an 'e' not an 'i'....After “reconnecting” via text, email and phone and after 3 tentative weekend plans to finally see one another, the opportunity presented itself – I was going to see the handsome man I met on a flight back to LA about a year more previously.  What was so sweet about this reunion was to hear how excited he was to see me!  I was committed to spending 2 days with my family and two days with him.

November 2010, about over a year from the last time I had laid eyes on Miles, I anxiously waited for him to pick me up from my sister's house.  Since I was visiting for a short weekend, the communication efforts kicked up to more frequent in anticipation.  For the next 32 hours, it was just going to be us, finally in the same time zone, in one of the best cities.  My phone rang as he pulled up front, I grabbed my bag as my sister and long-time girlfriend checked him out from the window.  In the very long elevator ride down that mimicked my stomach anxieties, the doors opened and there he stood with a big smile on his face and threw his hands up to say, “Finally!”  We hugged hello and he carried my bag to his car.  Knowing my sister and J-Kat were still watching, I found it amusing when he asked if they could see us. When I said yes, we both looked up and waved.

It was about a 40 minute drive into the city and we chit chatted about Thanksgiving events.  We first stopped at his place cause he “forgot something,” but I was just curious to see where he lived.  As soon as the elevator closed, he leaned and kissed me until we arrived at the 35 floor. A great way to start our weekend!!   I met the temporary roommate, and I was introduced as his “friend from LA.”  We dropped our bags at the hotel prior to check in, yes he sprung for a hotel, then we headed to a bar to watch come college ball (his college team was playing in one of the biggest games of the year; I just happen to love football).  Now I can’t say that things weren’t a bit awkward since we haven’t seen each other in a long time but he’s easy to talk to and I make friends wherever I go so there was plenty of activity going on around us.  After we ate something and watched most of the game, we moved our seats to the inner bar where there are couches to lounge on since we were roasting by the window (it was 20 degrees outside, but about 100 by the window)…now that was his main objective, perhaps mine too, to get within closer proximity to each other vs. sitting across from one another one with the anticipation building.  

I’m not much into PDA but how can you not with someone you NEVER get to see let alone with someone you’ve been very much looking forward to seeing!  It was like we picked up where we left off but different somehow.  Perhaps 3 months of build up projects that. We checked into the hotel and hung out for awhile then ventured out for hot chocolate and walk down Michigan Ave.  PERFECT!  Holding his hand and taking in the holiday spirits, well I couldn’t have asked for more.  We stopped and grabbed a nibble and a glass of wine then headed back to the hotel to warm up.  We actually fell asleep for a bit and there’s nothing more that I like that snuggling up next to a man!

THERE'S MORE TO COME...THIS WEEKEND AIN'T OVER...STAND BY!