Valley Barry

I know I have not written about Valley Barry.  VB is a friend of Miss J's withwhom she worked with previously. When me and my girls venture out locally in the hood, we tended to run into Valley Barry - a lot!  Seemingly cool guy with a big, voiceover voice.  One particular night running into VB, all of my girls were chatting up some guy, and I was talking to Valley Barry.  VB is a nice guy and we exchanged dating stories and whatnots.  I had an extra glass of wine or two and we ended up kissing.  (I don't have much memory or how that happened nor why) but he did ask for my number.  I was open to going on a date with him as he had asked for my number for that reason.

A week later, Trifecta coming into affect, it was Miss J's birthday.  Valley Barry was there, however let me give you the backstory of what or why not that's a big deal - HE NEVER CALLED!  One week after the drunken last-call kiss, he never called.  In the week that had passed, I grew over it cause I wasn't that into it.  When he showed, I happened to be standing near the door.  We're all adults so it's not going to turn into some scene.  "Wow, Bradshaw, you look great!" he said to me before heading to the bar. I said thank you and smiled politely and went about co-hosting.  He turned into creepy guy staring at me from across the room all night.  Or lurking about hoping to squeeze into a conversation I was having with the fellow party guests.  When that opportunity came about he says, "Bradshaw, hey!  I would love to buy you a drink."  I said very politely, "Thank you but I just closed my tab and actually I'm leaving."  


Upon me leaving, Valley Barry pulled Miss J aside and asked, "Does Bradshaw not like me?"  And Miss J not to hold back says matter of factly "You didn't call."   He looked at her like he had no idea what she was talking about.  You work up the courage to ask for a girls number and then not use it.  What gives?  He gave her some sob sotry of how he "wanted to call but..." and th ereality of hte situation - for both men and women alike- if you are interested in someone, NOTHING holds you back from making contact.  We're all business with work and other stuff. That just shouldn't be the factor holding you back but rather is what's holding you back in the dating world.  He told Miss J that he was sorry and she told him that he then owed me the apology for being such a baby, if he liked me.

I did receive a phone call the next day and I let it go to voicemail.  There was no apology in that voicemail just "Hey it's Valley Barry, great to see you last night.  Listen, give me a call if you want and I hope to hear from you."  Fail.   Miss J had filled me in on the conversation after I received that voicemail and I told her that I was glad she set him straight but I lost interest.

One night when the Trifecta was out, we were seated at one of our usual haunts and Miss J says like a ventriloquist, "Barry's here. Don't look."  Shit, I thought. I don't want to see this guy but it's inevitably since we were back at the scene of the crime (the location where he had asked for my number).  I kept my back facing him until the bartender sets two glasses down in front of us and says, "That guy at the end of the bar would like to buy you ladies your next round."  Now, sure that's like out of a movie, too bad it was Valley Barry that was the buyer.  We were forced to turn and wave and say hi.  He looked surprised like he didn't know I was seated next to Jennie. Come on!

Valley Barry makes hsi way over and we make small talk.  When Miss J struck up a convo with the babe seated next to her (Lumberjack), I was left talking to VB.  He says, "You never called?" "No, I didn't," I said matter of factly.  And when he questioned as to why I went on to tell him that I was just going to be honest.  "Yes, you called, a week after you got my number and saw me a week after you got my number."  "Well, work was this and that...."  and I said, "Come on, I have known you for a short time but in that short amount of time you always are on your phone, have your phone out, etc.  So there really is no excuse as to why you didn't use it to make some sort of contact with me, and that's the reality."  He looked at me dumbfounded. I said, "I'm not trying to make this any more awkward because we have mutual friends and I know we're going to run into each other so I just want to clear the air.  You're a nice guy but it's not going to happen."  He asks, "Well can I take you to dinner to make it up to you?" "No," I answered immediately.  He says, "No. Wow. no?" I said, "Again, I'm trying to be honest but polite, I lost interest."

Don't you think a woman, if given the opportunity to tell a guy what he did wrong if that chance was given to you?  How do guys learn? I mean, and this is another blog to come, they're getting the wrong dating advice from somewhere....why not get it from the horse's mouth.