Call Back Auditions

...so this has been a hot topic for a while now.  I do believe I've written about it before.  What's the standard rule? What breaks the rules? Are there rules to the call back?  I'm beginning to think they are, or rather does it just depends on the circumstances?


Recently a friend blamed me for a girl he met, that he claimed to like but didn't call immediately.  (Backstory was that we went out - ONCE - and when he called the next day (though I made it clear, or so I thought, that I was busy), I let it go to voicemail. Well, I let more than one call go to voicemail.  Sure, was it fair to him? no)  Haven't we all tried to spare one another's feelings by just not calling?  Or not returning a call?  However, he asked my 'dating advice' and I gave it to him straight out, 'If you like this girl as much as you say you do, don't listen to your stupid 20-something guy friends, call her."  He met her on a Friday, called on my urging on a Monday and never. heard. back.  CoCo came back to me the next day and blamed me?! by expressing the fact that he called me the day after we went out and I didn't respond. It's an easy out but doesn't mean it doesn't sting a little. Most people can brush it off cause they don't have to see them every single day.  I know it's not my fault it blew it with the girl he'd never pursue. 


I have a whole male's perspective on the topic matter - aside from that stated above - but haven't posted it yet.


I wrote about this topic  earlier this April - regarding Biggie.  This was the call or not to call but text cause maybe you wouldn't be available to call but whatever happened to the days when we weren't so instantly connected that we had to wait to get home to rewind the tape on the message machine?


I wrote about this topic in May regarding Shadow and her latest dude K.  Although, in this case it had to deal with the email response after to falling off the face of the earth only to hit the (dreaded) REPLY ALL feature to a message on Facebook.  Now all the world of Shadow could see what this guy was made of (and how he did in English class).


I wrote about this back in June upon running into Mac again after a 5-month lapse.  If you go through the effort of asking for the number, why not use it?  He didn't, then he did, and then he fell off again and I shrugged it off.  He, me and April sat and talked about the dating realm and I expressed my views/opinions and Mac agreed with me - a lot - that I couldn't help wonder if he was being genuine or trying to keep on my good graces.  And when I shrugged off his lack of go, go, go; do as you say, I happened to meet someone else - who was younger than the both of us.  Now Ventiseis was nice and cute as a button, but he was an alleged masterdater who was not a catch and couldn't follow through beyond a text message. To me, that's a dealbreaker.  

So that's the backstory of the story (us) girls talk about often. Went on a great date with a guy twice, three times and then never heard from him again? What's the mystery? What are the rules?

Shadow met a guy when we were out one night, that guy called the next day. They're already on date number 4 or 5 as of date. I met a guy that night who was a mutual friend. He was "so glad" to run into me that night because "he's been wanting to ask me out." I gave him my number and never heard from until I ran into him a week later at J's birthday, and by then I was bored with him and found him to be a bit irritating and creepy. When he cornered Miss J to ask "if I liked him" she simpled replied, "You didn't call." He called the very next day around 1pm, but I'm sorry in my world I've already lost interest and there is NO EXCUSE to keep you from calling a girl. To quote Mac, "if you're into someone, you call"; irony.


So I ran into Mac last weekend and he looked as cute as ever.  He happened (allegedly) to be calling about a (our mutual) friend as me, Jennie and April were about to meet up with Ebony and Ivory (also mutual friends).  When I told the old man this he said, "Hmm, well if you're going to go ---- bar, let me know and I'll meet you." Me, "We're going to ----- bar."  Mac, "Oh, well I just put a steak on the grill, I will eat it real fast and come down." He was there before E and I.  We had a great time and it was good to see him.  Long version abbreviated (to spare unnecessary details), he called me the very next day to say "hi."  I love that (even in lieu of creepy dude).  That was enough for me on that day.  It only leads me to ask what's next?


Oh!  I also got an email from Biggie? He's "out-of-town but will call me when he gets back. Big hugs."  Ah, Biggie. I hate that I got excited to hear from him after all these months.  But is Mac the guy to go with?  Will he step up?  I mean he called me Tuesday and I chatted with him briefly cause I was at work and asked that I call him later. I called him yesterday night and haven't still heard from him. What's up???