The Ah-ha Moment

“Ah ha!” you exclaim.

An ex, ex flame, former lover, or potential love interest (or any combination) in which you are seated across from, bump into, see a photo of and have that Ah-ha moment. 

Your love-bubble or like-bubble bursts and you see the person for who they really are and are met with a variation of feelings and thoughts.  This ‘bubble’ kept you going back for more knowing it wasn’t good for you, enabled you from seeing what your friends were talking about, or perhaps he tells a lie that just cannot be covered up, and – pop – bubble bursts! Or you’re adult enough to burst the bubble and then look at a former lover, flame, or potential and suddenly he doesn’t look so good with those rose colored glasses you were wearing. My friend Samantha said to me while discussing the Ah-Ha moment, “love doesn’t hurt, that’s lust.”  I found that interesting.  Okay then add your lust-bubble is popped too!   

Was he really as hot as I thought he was?  When the mere mention of him made me sweat, those were my lust muscles not my heart muscles?  You thought you were in love with someone who never showed one once of love in return.  Even someone who thinks you are the cat’s meow which then makes you believe he is the dog’s bark and then Ah-ha!  It crashes and burns.  Pop! Pop! Pop! Was that real or did I hallucinate it on the trip I was on?   

I began writing about this awhile back at the start of Mancation because I boldly put myself in this status because I believed I had been mislead and crushed.  Well, I was crushed! As aforementioned, I have definitely made leaps on Mancation – as it is necessary in the healing process – but can’t help but wonder if it was some sort of mirage.  I believed this man broke my heart when in fact he may have broken my spirit, Mancation allowed the heart to continue beating while still maintaining hope.  Even if it were a mirage, it allowed me to set a new standard of what’s acceptable in whatever like, lust, or love bubble stage I am at. 

He – who helped created the sensation of Mancation – told the world that he was “in a relationship.”  Initially I felt like someone punched me in the face, but then because my mirage bubble had been burst by the Ah-ha Moment, I smiled and merely said, “She’s a lucky girl.”  We date and meet one another because we’re trying on what fits and what doesn’t.  In life there are no exchanges.  The only returns can come from things like learning, living and leaping.   Perhaps somewhere in there this is “gift with purchase” as if someone isn’t the right fit; there is someone out there who is.