Misconception of Mancation

There seems to be confusion on what ‘Mancation’ means. I already defined it as a break in clear terms: A time to reflect and/or frankly hold out for someone who is worthy.

In talking with a gf of mine since 7th grade today, I said to her in some mentioning of my blog, that I have to give co-credit to my partner in crime Miss J. Both of us, who have been SEVERELY duped by the male species, while once upon a time we were one another’s confidents to make sure we never “got too girly,” suddenly were those who didn’t know anything at all. Mancation can also be defined as a time when guys go AWOL, perhaps on their own Mancation with their ‘bros without hoes,’ never knowing that it’s bizarre to us women that you never call, never live up to the man you state you are, or that you call or text or email after like months of nada. No explanation. No word. Nothing. And suddenly you think its okay to just pick up the phone (text/email) or in person act like nothing happened (or that it is wrong to act any other way than that)?

Most women reading this know what the F I’m talking about. Any man reading this who thinks he is not guilty, scratches his head and says, “What’s the big deal?” or “I was working that weekend?” or any variation or such. The other woman you were seeing, the ditch you fell in, the fact that you phone battery died and you couldn’t dial me is irrelevant in comparison to the lengths and measures you went through not to call, and/or come up with that dumbass story. I could cry “He’s Just Not That into You” here but I refuse to. (While I admire Greg Behrendt, and he’s a super nice, good guy upon meeting, he wrote a book about not making excuses any more for men when in my opinion, it was just another excuse for women -in book form). Just another excuse for them to read another self-help book, or as of late, run to the theatres to see the dreamy cast (and Greg himself as the priest) in the movie version.

Sidebar: Me and Miss J saw it together opening night just cause and elbowed each other whole time –between huffs and grunts of the annoying women and gays around us pointing fingers as to which friend was which in the movie version. Thank god we had cocktails before hand, seeing that movie sober would have made me madder.

In the beginning of my Mancation launch, guys thought it was a niche or didn’t understand why a woman in her early 30’s would do such a thing to herself. There’s a purpose. I’ve been in great relationships and I’ve wasted a lot of time of guys who aren’t/weren't worth a damn. I finally snapped out of it upon learning a guy who I thought was the bee’s knees, wasn’t. He was like the rest. Mancation! And though that was now about 3-4 months since the downfall or rise of Mancation, it’s opened my blue eyes bigger. What’s looming in my heart is ready to implode and I want to unleash (sounds vampire-esque) that on someone who is worthy. However, creating Mancation, again, came from a man disappearing or becoming someone we no longer know - or see.

Guys see it as a challenge, sure. I had a man ask me just the other night. Yes, I know it’s a challenge and if he’s right, I hope he’s ready to take it. I didn’t set out to know what the outcome or rules would be but they become all the more clear as the days progress. It’s been 3 months since my declaration. I’ve never been happier and prepare to continue...

When explained to the logical man about what this "is"…and/or sets out to accomplish, I’ve discovered men become frustrated by heir own species and why they behave or say the things they do. They finally get why, perhaps, someone like me would want to take a break. It becomes a joke after a while and I don’t always want the funny, I want the kind too.